Got the idea from Paul Randal and Tara Kizer.
Keke... You guys probably know my current profession by now. ;-)
Event #1 - After 6 years in the accountancy field, I decided that Accountancy is not something I wanted to do for life, thus I went on to join an Accounting Software company as a Helpdesk Analyst. My wish came true and eventually I made a full transition from Accountancy to IT.
Event #2 - I went from being a Helpdesk Analyst to an Operator in an IT Outsourcing Company. One really gotta swallow one's pride to make such a career move. Call me crazy, but I always believe that there is light at the end of the tunnel.
Event #3 - I worked my ass off and was rewarded with a career move to the Development Team.
In the Development Team, I worked in a number of different roles during my tenure.
This vastly expanded my exposure. I became a Jack of All Trades.
Thursday, January 21, 2010
Wednesday, January 20, 2010
Life is Too Short to Stay Angry
Extracted from Baby Boomers Network
Life is so precious. Then why do we waste so much time doing things that are harmful to us? Most people I meet say that all they want is to be happy and to live a peaceful life. However, we all know how difficult that can be. After all, things happen that annoy, frustrate and hurt us. We have the right to get angry. But if you’re the type who gets angry at all sorts of difficulties, you may want to find an alternative way of behaving. In fact, anger can do terrible things to your mind and body.
Life is so precious. Then why do we waste so much time doing things that are harmful to us? Most people I meet say that all they want is to be happy and to live a peaceful life. However, we all know how difficult that can be. After all, things happen that annoy, frustrate and hurt us. We have the right to get angry. But if you’re the type who gets angry at all sorts of difficulties, you may want to find an alternative way of behaving. In fact, anger can do terrible things to your mind and body.
By staying angry, you are not letting yourself be forgiving. It also makes you skeptical of others and fearful about getting hurt again. The problem with this is that you become bitter. Your optimism diminishes; you become less tolerant of others and perhaps a little too sarcastic. Plus, your body remains tense, nervous and uncomfortable and it gets harder to shake those feelings of hostility or displeasure.
Therefore, to ruminate, rehash and mope about things that already happened, just doesn’t work well on the psyche or the soul. So, if your goal in the latter part of your life is to have loving relationships, to get along with people, to have many friends, to work well with colleagues, etc, then you need to recognize how your thoughts are self-defeating and sabotaging your behavior.
You may ask yourself the following questions to get a good reality check on your thinking:
1. Does being angry relax me?
2. Does blaming others make me feel loving and connected?
3. Does shouting really help me communicate better?
4. Does worrying make me feel good?
It seems obvious that harboring these negative feelings may actually be harmful. Understand that if you can’t change the situation, you need to find another way to respond or let it go. If you are aware of your reaction to things, you’ll find that you may over exaggerate or make it worse than it actually is. Don’t be like the woman who wrote to Dear Abby saying that she fought with her father, didn’t speak to him for three weeks and when she finally decided to make amends, he died in a horrible accident.
Life is too short and there’s barely enough time to fit in all the things that make you happy. Don’t waste those precious moments staying angry when the time can be better spent pursuing your dreams and fulfilling your bliss. Anger has its place and time. Just don’t let anger get so out of hand that it determines the choices that you make. Your happiness depends not on your set of circumstances, but rather on how you act on it.
Tuesday, January 12, 2010
From Cancer to Clearwater
http://ironman.com/columns/ironmanlife/aviva-life-challenge-award-winner-alan-lim-will-compete-at-the-foster-grant-ironman-world-championship-70
The race will be here in another 60+ days.
However the above story has been bugging me since I first read the news report last year.
I mean, I dun think about it, just whenever the inspirational story contest rears its head. =D
Haha, I think I am one who always have a different opinion about situations. =D
Stage 3 Cancer... meaning advanced stage cancer.
How long before one is free from the disease? Or will one ever be free from it?
He is diagnosed with Stage 3 Cancer in 2004, going through cancer treatment...
Yet between 2004-2009, he has a third child? (The age of the third child had been omitted from the report...)
To me, the question is... What kind of man is that?
To be suffering from advanced stage cancer , yet still burden the family with a third child?
So was he a deserving winner for the Aviva Life Challenge Award? I beg to differ.
The race will be here in another 60+ days.
However the above story has been bugging me since I first read the news report last year.
I mean, I dun think about it, just whenever the inspirational story contest rears its head. =D
Haha, I think I am one who always have a different opinion about situations. =D
Stage 3 Cancer... meaning advanced stage cancer.
How long before one is free from the disease? Or will one ever be free from it?
He is diagnosed with Stage 3 Cancer in 2004, going through cancer treatment...
Yet between 2004-2009, he has a third child? (The age of the third child had been omitted from the report...)
To me, the question is... What kind of man is that?
To be suffering from advanced stage cancer , yet still burden the family with a third child?
So was he a deserving winner for the Aviva Life Challenge Award? I beg to differ.
The Reality of Platonic Relationships
Reproduced with kind permission by Krisztina Virag.
Thanks, Krisztina!
The Reality of Platonic Relationships
By Krisztina Virag
Have you ever had a friend of the opposite sex who was really "just a friend'? Not likely. Krisztina Virag writes.
Starting in kindergarten, girls and boys share a love-hate relationship. While as children the two sexes keep far apart and swear off ever straying into the other team, things change by the time we grow up. Romance seems to surface between men and women when the two spend enough time together, or so say some. According to others, men and women can sustain a strictly platonic relationship all throughout life.
Friendships are a crucial part of everyone’s life. As in any other relationship, friendships have their high points as well as times when the connection between the two individuals weakens. While same-sex friendships take a lot of work to maintain over a significant period of time, opposite-sex friendships require even more effort in order to diminish any uncertainty about the extent of the friendship.
The Meaning of Platonic
The dictionary definition of a platonic relationship, also known as platonic love, is "an affectionate relationship between two people of the opposite sex, where there is no sexual element, although there could be the possibility for it." It is love based on the beauty of a person’s character and intelligence, not the appearance.
Fact or Fiction?
The world seems to be equally divided when it comes to believing in platonic relationships. These relationships seem to be more complicated than any other and they carry a certain amount of ambiguity of the sexual charge between the two individuals.
Some say that it is much easier for a woman to maintain a platonic relationship. While the ladies are able to look at a guy as just a friend, men run the risk of thinking of their female friend in a sexual way. Men are likely to develop a desire that could ultimately, if acted upon, ruin the friendship.
Do platonic relationships exist -- in my opinion? Yes, they do and no, they do not. The possibility of a platonic relationship depends entirely on the situation.
A Simple Scenario
Did the friendship form while both or at least one party was single? As cold and shallow as it sounds, nine times out of 10 we physically evaluate with whom we form bonds when we are single (not a scientific statistic). I do not say this out of desperation; rather it is a matter of genetics. When we are single, we tend to look for a partner. If the friendship was formed in one of these times, there is a chance that physical attraction exists between the two. Once this attraction is acted upon, the relationship is no longer just friendship, it is not platonic.
Thus the relationship can only be platonic if the two people involved can strictly be friends. Basically, the question “why are we just friends?” must never arise!
The Benefits of Platonic Friendships
We’ve all heard of friends with benefits – but platonic friends with benefits? Could such a thing exist? Sure it can!
* In a platonic relationship, men and women get a closer look at each others’ personalities and they can understand the other gender better.
* You can get quality advice from your platonic friend that you just can’t get from one of the same sex.
* Your platonic friend has many guy/girl friends – so you will always have a chance to meet someone!
The Reality
If platonic relationships sound so good, why aren’t there more of them in this world? Simple – in many instances, platonic relationships prove to be nothing but a waiting period for the right moment to arise to ask someone out.
Thus, platonic friendships almost always turn out to be mission impossible. I still believe that platonic relationships can be developed with a lot of care. As long as there is full honesty, a strong person will be able to suppress sexual desires and a natural connection can be achieved.
Let’s just be friends
I would like to bring some attention to the title of these opposite-sex friendships. People sometimes regard any sort of connection between a man and a woman as platonic, be that sexual or business-related. The fact is that as soon as romance or sexuality enters the picture – well then, the connection is no longer platonic. It is very important to keep the purity of the situation in mind and to use this term in accordance.
Thanks, Krisztina!
The Reality of Platonic Relationships
By Krisztina Virag
Have you ever had a friend of the opposite sex who was really "just a friend'? Not likely. Krisztina Virag writes.
Starting in kindergarten, girls and boys share a love-hate relationship. While as children the two sexes keep far apart and swear off ever straying into the other team, things change by the time we grow up. Romance seems to surface between men and women when the two spend enough time together, or so say some. According to others, men and women can sustain a strictly platonic relationship all throughout life.
Friendships are a crucial part of everyone’s life. As in any other relationship, friendships have their high points as well as times when the connection between the two individuals weakens. While same-sex friendships take a lot of work to maintain over a significant period of time, opposite-sex friendships require even more effort in order to diminish any uncertainty about the extent of the friendship.
The Meaning of Platonic
The dictionary definition of a platonic relationship, also known as platonic love, is "an affectionate relationship between two people of the opposite sex, where there is no sexual element, although there could be the possibility for it." It is love based on the beauty of a person’s character and intelligence, not the appearance.
Fact or Fiction?
The world seems to be equally divided when it comes to believing in platonic relationships. These relationships seem to be more complicated than any other and they carry a certain amount of ambiguity of the sexual charge between the two individuals.
Some say that it is much easier for a woman to maintain a platonic relationship. While the ladies are able to look at a guy as just a friend, men run the risk of thinking of their female friend in a sexual way. Men are likely to develop a desire that could ultimately, if acted upon, ruin the friendship.
Do platonic relationships exist -- in my opinion? Yes, they do and no, they do not. The possibility of a platonic relationship depends entirely on the situation.
A Simple Scenario
Did the friendship form while both or at least one party was single? As cold and shallow as it sounds, nine times out of 10 we physically evaluate with whom we form bonds when we are single (not a scientific statistic). I do not say this out of desperation; rather it is a matter of genetics. When we are single, we tend to look for a partner. If the friendship was formed in one of these times, there is a chance that physical attraction exists between the two. Once this attraction is acted upon, the relationship is no longer just friendship, it is not platonic.
Thus the relationship can only be platonic if the two people involved can strictly be friends. Basically, the question “why are we just friends?” must never arise!
The Benefits of Platonic Friendships
We’ve all heard of friends with benefits – but platonic friends with benefits? Could such a thing exist? Sure it can!
* In a platonic relationship, men and women get a closer look at each others’ personalities and they can understand the other gender better.
* You can get quality advice from your platonic friend that you just can’t get from one of the same sex.
* Your platonic friend has many guy/girl friends – so you will always have a chance to meet someone!
The Reality
If platonic relationships sound so good, why aren’t there more of them in this world? Simple – in many instances, platonic relationships prove to be nothing but a waiting period for the right moment to arise to ask someone out.
Thus, platonic friendships almost always turn out to be mission impossible. I still believe that platonic relationships can be developed with a lot of care. As long as there is full honesty, a strong person will be able to suppress sexual desires and a natural connection can be achieved.
Let’s just be friends
I would like to bring some attention to the title of these opposite-sex friendships. People sometimes regard any sort of connection between a man and a woman as platonic, be that sexual or business-related. The fact is that as soon as romance or sexuality enters the picture – well then, the connection is no longer platonic. It is very important to keep the purity of the situation in mind and to use this term in accordance.
Tuesday, January 5, 2010
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Runners have little time for family, don't they?
http://www.sgrunners.com/forum//index.php?showtopic=13001&view=findpost&p=376020
Reading this article, I was wondering readers started laying accolades on SC5.
"I have been a single-parent, with two children staying with me.....I am the Master of the house, the maid, the nurse, the everything....I do all the house chores on my own i.e. cleaning my place, washing, ironing, making sure my kids get to eat during their meal-time...I am also doing another degree now....and I am a Triathlete...I sometimes wonder, where I find the time. But I am enjoying every minute of it."
I do not know why he became a single parent, but he seems to have left out someone from the equation.
What happened to WaterGal???
If WaterGal is included in the picture, will it take off the shine from the whole story?
http://www.sgrunners.com/forum//index.php?showtopic=13001&view=findpost&p=376020
Reading this article, I was wondering readers started laying accolades on SC5.
"I have been a single-parent, with two children staying with me.....I am the Master of the house, the maid, the nurse, the everything....I do all the house chores on my own i.e. cleaning my place, washing, ironing, making sure my kids get to eat during their meal-time...I am also doing another degree now....and I am a Triathlete...I sometimes wonder, where I find the time. But I am enjoying every minute of it."
I do not know why he became a single parent, but he seems to have left out someone from the equation.
What happened to WaterGal???
If WaterGal is included in the picture, will it take off the shine from the whole story?
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